Sober and Shagadelic


I haven’t had a drink for over a year, and it has been one of the best things I’ve ever done in my life. I can think more clearly, feel more deeply, sleep more soundly and just generally kick more ass.

Having said that, dating while sober is a whole different banana. It doesn’t mean that it can’t be fun, but it means a little more thought is involved. I mean, going for a drink is the default date thing to do, and it can get a bit boring if only one person is drinking.

If you’re the kind of person that feels comfortable in a bar, then I personally would still go, but order your favourite juice, a mocktail or some chic mineral water with lime. However, have some suggestions for other things to do if you think it will be too awkies. There are actually an infinite number of things you can do with a person as a date, like go to an art gallery, watch live comedy, grab a coffee and walk in the park, hang at the beach, or go to a space themed cat café (all of which I have actually done).

If you are going to hang out with a date at night, then I will say that things don’t so easily lead to anything else later on, if you catch my drift. When you’re sober, you have crystal clear judgement and don’t easily decide in the heat of the moment that it would be excellent to wake up with your person of-the-night the next morning.

The thing about being sober is that it does confront some people with their own need to drink. There’s nothing like hanging out with someone who doesn’t feel the need to have a glass of wine at every anxiety-provoking social occasion to make you realise that maybe you have a little bit of a problem. So, if someone you’re seeing suddenly backs right off, that could be why. But if that’s the case, then they’re worth throwing back in the sea anyway.

ExpressShastri Haines